I honest to God am flying by the seat of my pants in getting these blogs out. I am starting to get some comments! I acknowledge that bullies are created in home settings. Comments from Twitters is that they never knew that a sibling could be abusive. Our culture, and several other countries all over the world are dealing with bullying. The focus for solving this issue is not in the right place. Siblings are the most aggressive family members. The bullies come from home settings and have been practicing on their siblings. The abuse that is in the home from children toward their siblings, both biological and nonbiological (step children), should be given the attention. It isn’t the school setting that we should put our concern toward. As I write, I shudder at the children and teenagers who live in tyranny and have no freedom. They live in America and yet they are in the covert underworld of sibling abuse. Over stressed parents are clueless as to what is going on in their homes.
The earth breaking book for my abuse by a sibling was SIBLING ABUSE by Vernon R. Wiehe. It has stats and information that can help a victim become an empowered survivor.
Listening tip for a parent who is confronted with bullying or sibling abuse: Listen with empathy and focus on feelings. Example: “How did you feel when you were pushed.”
“I am here for you and want to listen.”
Many children, who are in the cycle of bullying or sibling abuse, are criticized and told that they are weak, stupid, etc.